Oh my gooooodnesss, I'm obsessed with this! So many fucking flawless turns of phrase, such evocative and compelling storytelling! I'm thrilled the workshop played a small role in this. <3 Also, you absolutely nail so many realizations I had doing FSSW (and some online stuff, but the therapy breaks, the way it helps create better boundaries around emotional labor outside of work, etc. Just sooo accurate). So excited for more of this! Yay you! <3
When I read this comment I squealed with delight like a junior high school me who just got passed a note in class from my dreamy literary genius crush! Thank you so much for your support, Raechel! These encouraging words mean so much to me.
"but she enjoys finally, for once in her life, being paid for her emotional labor." YES
"You thought you wanted to escape reality with a fantasy rack that defies death and gravity. Instead, you pay to tap into your own humanness" AND YES
Folks seem to overlook this piece when it comes to sex work. This is a huge part of it. Everyone thinks its about the acts of sex. In my experience, it was acts of vulnerability- these men dropping facade and expectations, exposing vulnerability. I often got "I can talk to you because you cant judge me"- WHAT?! I sure can :) But they felt I couldnt because I was a whore and because of that was seemingly in no place to look down on others. Funny.
Oh my gooooodnesss, I'm obsessed with this! So many fucking flawless turns of phrase, such evocative and compelling storytelling! I'm thrilled the workshop played a small role in this. <3 Also, you absolutely nail so many realizations I had doing FSSW (and some online stuff, but the therapy breaks, the way it helps create better boundaries around emotional labor outside of work, etc. Just sooo accurate). So excited for more of this! Yay you! <3
When I read this comment I squealed with delight like a junior high school me who just got passed a note in class from my dreamy literary genius crush! Thank you so much for your support, Raechel! These encouraging words mean so much to me.
"but she enjoys finally, for once in her life, being paid for her emotional labor." YES
"You thought you wanted to escape reality with a fantasy rack that defies death and gravity. Instead, you pay to tap into your own humanness" AND YES
Folks seem to overlook this piece when it comes to sex work. This is a huge part of it. Everyone thinks its about the acts of sex. In my experience, it was acts of vulnerability- these men dropping facade and expectations, exposing vulnerability. I often got "I can talk to you because you cant judge me"- WHAT?! I sure can :) But they felt I couldnt because I was a whore and because of that was seemingly in no place to look down on others. Funny.
Love your writing. Thank you.
Thank you for this thoughtful response!! So true what you’re saying about the reasons why men let their guard down with us. 🤠