Thank you so much for engaging my work, Jack! I think I address this question sideways in my brief discussion of uncomfortable truths, but I am also unsure of the precise temporal or experiential distinction you’re making between causality and discernment. Could you please rephrase the question so that I may respond more directly?
To be clear I don’t like older men per se, I just find points of connection with them if they are of a certain era LOL. And while I’ve had experiences with women at strip clubs, the majority of my observations are about men I encounter as connected to broader structures of feeling and power. So yes, I mean that dating men specifically has become harder since stripping for emotional and logistical reasons, although the hopeless romantic in me says it’s not impossible. In the context of the club I am consenting to sexual objectification so as long as I am being compensated for it I don’t have an issue. In other words it is not about the male gaze but the deeper, more subtle ways men act out their own psychic wounds at the club.
I appreciate your questions because 1) I feel they are coming from a genuine place, although of course the writer in me is curious to know more specifics about that place and your own experiences (or not) w/the club; 2) I’m continuing to write about this topic in my current post in progress; and 3) I love to know what is striking the interest and curiosity of readers. So thank you!
Incredible writing, friend. And relatable as always!!
Thank you very much, Raechel, that means a lot to me 🩷🤍 and I feel so connected to you through our writings here 💕
Thank you so much for engaging my work, Jack! I think I address this question sideways in my brief discussion of uncomfortable truths, but I am also unsure of the precise temporal or experiential distinction you’re making between causality and discernment. Could you please rephrase the question so that I may respond more directly?
To be clear I don’t like older men per se, I just find points of connection with them if they are of a certain era LOL. And while I’ve had experiences with women at strip clubs, the majority of my observations are about men I encounter as connected to broader structures of feeling and power. So yes, I mean that dating men specifically has become harder since stripping for emotional and logistical reasons, although the hopeless romantic in me says it’s not impossible. In the context of the club I am consenting to sexual objectification so as long as I am being compensated for it I don’t have an issue. In other words it is not about the male gaze but the deeper, more subtle ways men act out their own psychic wounds at the club.
I appreciate your questions because 1) I feel they are coming from a genuine place, although of course the writer in me is curious to know more specifics about that place and your own experiences (or not) w/the club; 2) I’m continuing to write about this topic in my current post in progress; and 3) I love to know what is striking the interest and curiosity of readers. So thank you!